Feeling weird and antsy and I don’t know what to do with myself. These creature comforts of home aren’t enough to satisfy me and I’m already yearning for the road. All I’ve wanted for a long time is to travel and see the world. That two week taste was incredible and I’m so restless now.
…There’s no barbed wire in America. There’s a lot of concrete. America is encased in concrete molded to the shape of an enormous false history. This history has a face - Americans see this face when they close their eyes in prayer or death. In God We Trust. That god is the false face of America: a gory history wearing a noble expression.
It’s not many days that you get to listen to a new Frank Turner record for the first time but man, those days, those are the good ones.
This album is just incredible. This record would have really helped me had it come out last December. So happy right now.
This is everything I have ever tried to articulate and failed because a man was talking over me.
This entire article. I keep saying this, and it’s just so baffling to me how almost everyone always disagrees with me on this, because this idea that women are so much more emotional than men, and that men so much more rational than women is just so consistently being proven wrong to me every day of my life.
omg I’ve been waiting for years for somebody to write this.
I remember when I was taking a psychology class in high school, our teacher insisted that men had more emotional needs than women. To prove it, he showed us a video of a study with mothers and their infants.
In the study, women would play peekaboo with their babies, but then after a while give them a blank :I look
The baby girls were mostly unaffected, the boys however, started crying.
Hell I don’t need a study, I just have to look at my parents. My dad gets upset if my mom isn’t there to constantly freaking baby him, while my mom is expected to work and come home and make dinner and put up with him even though he’s retired and doesn’t do shit around the house now.
So why the shit do we get saddled with the emotional, clingy reputation??
shit is too fucking real. if i had a nickel for every time i had to wipe away dude tears and then had my own emotions completely minimized in return i’d have a nice car to fucking run over them with
“Anger? EMOTION. Hate? EMOTION. Resorting to violence? EMOTIONAL OUTBURST. An irrational need to be correct when all the evidence is against you? Pretty sure that’s an emotion. Resorting to shouting really loudly when you don’t like the other person’s point of view? That’s called “being too emotional to engage in a rational discussion.”
Not only do I think men are at least as emotional as women, I think that these stereotypically male emotions are more damaging to rational dialogue than are stereotypically female emotions. A hurt, crying person can still listen, think, and speak. A shouting, angry person? That person is crapping all over meaningful discourse.”
Damn, well put.
Just saw this again and Yeah. Yeah. Let’s just put this right in the middle of the blog.
Woah, anger is an emotion, who would have thunk it?
From a commentor-
“Really good points in here, but one aspect you didn’t really touch on is, why are women who display “appropriate male emotions” (ie: anger) still labeled “emotional”? It seems as if the only acceptable range of emotions for a women are placid pleasantness to enthusiastic.
I’ve had this here before (because I have never understood why men’s anger isn’t deemed “emotion”) but putting it here again because it’s always relevant and because of the A+ commentary.
Reblog for all of it.
Very well written article. I wish it had gone more into the other side of the issue, men who are too emotional in a “stereotypical female” way. As a male who is emotional in both angry and sensitive ways that would have appealed to me. I believe that most anger that men display, particularly that towards women, is learned. Men are taught to act in a way that isn’t feminine, especially when it comes to our emotions. When we begin to feel uncomfortable, attacked, wrong, or unsure, our first defense mechanism is to get angry because from a young age we learn that that is what works. This article paints a very clear picture of how patriarchy damages men as well as women and under this system when men feel damaged that damaged is transferred onto women two-fold.