June 2013
May 2013
So I gotta say, seeing Vanguard and Sinking Ships tonight was pretty damn rad.
“I still catch myself feeling sad about things that don’t matter anymore.”
—Kurt Vonnegut (via g7ba)
Back home from Costa Rica.
Feeling weird and antsy and I don’t know what to do with myself. These creature comforts of home aren’t enough to satisfy me and I’m already yearning for the road. All I’ve wanted for a long time is to travel and see the world. That two week taste was incredible and I’m so restless now.
April 2013
I wanna play with yer butt.
“…There’s no barbed wire in America. There’s a lot of concrete. America is encased in concrete molded to the shape of an enormous false history. This history has a face - Americans see this face when they close their eyes in prayer or death. In God We Trust. That god is the false face of America: a gory history wearing a noble expression.”
—Steven Jesse Bernstein, Main Street America (1986)
I'm getting so antsy for Costa Rica. Already having trouble sleeping.
"When Men Are Too Emotional To Have A Rational Argument" →
thegloss.com
This is everything I have ever tried to articulate and failed because a man was talking over me.
This entire article. I keep saying this, and it’s just so baffling to me how almost everyone always disagrees with me on this, because this idea that women are so much more emotional than men, and that men so much more rational than women is just so consistently being proven wrong to me every day of my life.
omg I’ve been waiting for years for somebody to write this.
I remember when I was taking a psychology class in high school, our teacher insisted that men had more emotional needs than women. To prove it, he showed us a video of a study with mothers and their infants.
In the study, women would play peekaboo with their babies, but then after a while give them a blank :I look
The baby girls were mostly unaffected, the boys however, started crying.
Hell I don’t need a study, I just have to look at my parents. My dad gets upset if my mom isn’t there to constantly freaking baby him, while my mom is expected to work and come home and make dinner and put up with him even though he’s retired and doesn’t do shit around the house now.
So why the shit do we get saddled with the emotional, clingy reputation??
shit is too fucking real. if i had a nickel for every time i had to wipe away dude tears and then had my own emotions completely minimized in return i’d have a nice car to fucking run over them with
“Anger? EMOTION. Hate? EMOTION. Resorting to violence? EMOTIONAL OUTBURST. An irrational need to be correct when all the evidence is against you? Pretty sure that’s an emotion. Resorting to shouting really loudly when you don’t like the other person’s point of view? That’s called “being too emotional to engage in a rational discussion.”
Not only do I think men are at least as emotional as women, I think that these stereotypically male emotions are more damaging to rational dialogue than are stereotypically female emotions. A hurt, crying person can still listen, think, and speak. A shouting, angry person? That person is crapping all over meaningful discourse.”
Damn, well put.
Just saw this again and Yeah. Yeah. Let’s just put this right in the middle of the blog.
Woah, anger is an emotion, who would have thunk it?From a commentor-
“Really good points in here, but one aspect you didn’t really touch on is, why are women who display “appropriate male emotions” (ie: anger) still labeled “emotional”? It seems as if the only acceptable range of emotions for a women are placid pleasantness to enthusiastic.
Also, while men’s emotions are seen as relevant to and reflective of the situation, women’s emotions are seen as extraneous and excessive. You’re also expected to have the emotional cognizance — female intuition? — to change the tone of the situation to one that’s more positive. For instance, even if a catastophe occurs, you, as a women, are supposed to keep your cool, speak in a calm voice, and quiet everyone, while men end up shouting and it’s your responsibility to calm them down.”
So fucking true.
Also women are expected to control the emotions and actions of the men (or boys) around her. Like the story about that school telling the girls to stop cussing, but not the boys.
I’ve had this here before (because I have never understood why men’s anger isn’t deemed “emotion”) but putting it here again because it’s always relevant and because of the A+ commentary.
Reblog for all of it.
Very well written article. I wish it had gone more into the other side of the issue, men who are too emotional in a “stereotypical female” way. As a male who is emotional in both angry and sensitive ways that would have appealed to me. I believe that most anger that men display, particularly that towards women, is learned. Men are taught to act in a way that isn’t feminine, especially when it comes to our emotions. When we begin to feel uncomfortable, attacked, wrong, or unsure, our first defense mechanism is to get angry because from a young age we learn that that is what works. This article paints a very clear picture of how patriarchy damages men as well as women and under this system when men feel damaged that damaged is transferred onto women two-fold.
